07/24/2026
I wasn’t planning on posting anything about this but I woke up super emotional reflecting over the last year or so.
I unfortunately dated this POS woman be**er for about 10 months.
After over 1 year and 3 months of him lying, hiding, and beating another woman after me…
He finally got sentenced, not nearly as long as I think he should have! However over that time frame after we split up, he has racked up multiple charges in a few other counties that are working on sentencing him those as well.
In 10 months I dealt with the most controlling and insecure man I had ever witnessed in my entire life.
He made co-parenting with my son's dad difficult by constantly accusing us of still having a “Thing” for one another.
He constantly hung over my shoulder needing to know every detail about every conversation I had, even with my family. Oh man, and if I had any conversation with the opposite s*x, it got picked apart and twisted into something that it wasn’t. Even if it was work related.
I couldn’t even have a conversation with my dads best friend after I found out he passed away without being accused of stupid s**t.
My best friend didn't talk to me for months because of him.
I almost lost my kids, emotionally and physically,
He made it damn near impossible to build my business back up then put me down for not making “enough money”.
I got accused of the craziest things and called the most off the wall names that I had ever heard.
Physically…
I had been restrained, s*xually abused, knocked out, kept in a house against my will, holes punched in walls right by my head, things thrown at, cars disabled, shoved, etc.
He was addicted to suboxone on top of all of it!
When I had to go to Florida after my God Father passed away, he found out I had borrowed money from my family because my mother’s alcoholic husband opened his fu***ng mouth…
This POS made me go on a walk and threatened to kill me if I was putting a plan together to try to leave him and if I was doing it to be with another man, he would kill us both.
It was at that moment that I knew I HAD to get out of that situation.
I told him that if he ever became aggressive with me again that I was calling the cops.
After finding out that he had been driving that entire time without a licence, lied to me having a truck that “his son took the payment over on”, told me his daughter was a painting artist and a tattoo apprentice, finding out that he was married AND had another child that he said “Wasn’t his” but yet signed the birth certificate, pays child support on (Barley), and she looks JUST LIKE HIM!!!
I decided to break up with him which led to the last physical altercation. So I called the cops…
He immediately contacted friends, family, and clients lying about so much s**t to ruin my name.
A lot of people believed him and I haven’t talked to since. Some finally realised by watching my life afterwards who the actual problem was.
To those that were there for me, never believing the lies he spread… the kids and I are so grateful for you!!!
To his ex’s that reached out to me after checking on me and supporting me through the process because they understood, thank you!
To his family that has tried to cover up for him, hid him from the cops, and defended this piece of s**t… I wish there was punishment for you too but I know KARMA is a bitch!
Just know people like you are just as much part of the problem in the realm of Domestic Violence, and you are just as bad as the abusers themselves.
Hopefully now that he will be locked up for a little while, his current GF’s nervous system will start to repair itself and she will realize how much she needs to get away from him to save her life.
I have talked to her, seen pictures/videos of him abusing her, and heard all the things she has lost in her life since being with him.
I tried to help give her the encouragement to get away from him, but he has manipulated her way more than he did me so she thinks he’s a “great guy”!
Send some prayers and good vibes her way…
If you or someone you know is experiencing Domestic Violence, please reach out for help. As fu**ed up as some people are, their are still people out there that will help you!
Anyways, F**K THIS GUY, the people that believe his bulls**t lies, and those who turned their cheek while I clearly was NOT okay!
This was THE BEST LAST DAY of Mercury Retrograde EVERRRRRR!!!
EVERYTHING DONE IN THE DARK COMES TO LIGHT!
(D-Bags Favorite Quote) 🤣☠️
- ANOTHER survivor of Derrick Bordner
