15/06/2026
The Polygamist written by A Zimbabwean Woman
Sue Nyathi The woman behind it All
The deeper lesson is what it reveals about human nature, brokenness, choices, pride, identity, and the consequences that follow when people seek validation in the wrong places.
A man can have many wives, many girlfriends, many children, many houses, and many businesses, yet still be emotionally bankrupt. Society often teaches men that masculinity is measured by how many women desire them, how many people fear them, or how much power they possess. But true manhood has never been measured by numbers. It is measured by character.
Many men spend years building an image instead of building a legacy. They want to be called "Iskhokho," "the boss," "the king," "the player," but titles mean nothing if the people closest to you are carrying wounds because of your decisions. A man who conquers many women but cannot conquer his own desires remains a slave to himself.
The series also teaches women something profound.
A woman should never measure her worth by a man's attention. Being chosen by a married man does not make you special. Being the reason another woman cries herself to sleep is not a victory. Sometimes people mistake access for value. Just because someone chooses you does not mean they honour you.
The most dangerous thing in life is when people become addicted to temporary validation. A woman who knows her worth does not compete for a position that already belongs to someone else. She understands that if a man can betray one woman for her, he can betray her for another.
The tragedy is that some people sell their future to finance a lifestyle they cannot afford.
Poverty is painful, but desperation can be even more dangerous.
What touched me most about stories like these is that behind every glamorous picture is usually someone carrying a hidden wound.
The man is often trying to fill a void.
The woman is often trying to feel chosen.
The child is often trying to understand why they were forgotten.
The wife is often trying to survive heartbreak.
And everyone is pretending they are happy.
Great people are remembered for how many lives they healed, protected, uplifted, and transformed.