09/04/2026
How big should your forever home be?
A woman asked me exactly that this week. Fresh empty nesters, building on land they already own. Torn right down the middle — they need less house day-to-day, but the whole family still shows up. Nine at the table now, more grandkids coming. Everything under 2,000 square feet felt too small. Everything over it felt like too much house.
Here's what I told her. I've got seven grandkids of my own, 10 to 25 — so this one's personal.
Square footage isn't where you start. Your land is. A big lot opens the door to one level — my favorite way to build a forever home. And if you've got the room, there's one layout I keep coming back to: the "H."
Picture it from above:
🏠 Left leg — your wing. Master suite, office/getaway up towards the front. The garage tucked toward the back.
🏠 Right leg — everyone else. Two bedrooms front and back with a Jack-and-Jill for each set, a game room/Living Room separating them. . Grandkids and their parents get their own space.
🏠 Center bar — where the family lands. Open kitchen, wraparound island facing a huge family room. Cathedral ceiling, fireplace, panoramic sliders to catch the view.
That center is the whole point. It's not square footage — it's the room everybody ends up in.
Now the part that surprises people: build it barndominium-style and it comes in well under a conventional home. Same footprint, same "H" — a fraction of the cost.
And you don't have to build it all at once. Start with your wing and the garage. Add the kitchen and family room next. Build the family wing last, when you're ready. A forever home you grow into — not one you go broke over.
Somewhere north of 2,500 square feet and you've got it. Build it and they will come. As long as it's FUN.
Save this for when you break ground, and send it to whoever's dreaming about their forever home. → GoAskCurt.com