04/17/2024
Debunking historically proclaimed
ākeys to happinessā
fallacies ā¦
(It's long, but I believe it will prove well worth the time... I BELIEVE IT could SAVE YOU YEARS of HARD KNOCKS AND TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS) ā¤ļø
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The Fallacies
(as I see it)
āNo one can make you happy, happiness comes from within.ā
āYou make your own happinessā
āHappiness comes from withinā
AND...
My 43 year analysis and conclusion
These and countless other similar cliches are thoughtlessly repeated daily. Usually by those giving advice to others out of concern....but have they ever actually considered whether these ideas are actually sound and logical?
I didn't think too much on the subject myself really
However, I am thinking about it now...
over the years, I have sought happiness every way imaginable...
(alone, through friends & family, religion, s*x, drugs & alcohol, careers and money, hobbies, goal setting, selfless acts, music, petsā¦and surely many other routes I can't recall)
I've also studied others in their pursuit of happinessā¦
(those who have succeeded, those who haven't, and everything between.)
Hoping to gain some insight on the secret to finding ātrue & lastingā happinessā¦
One thing I am almost certain of....is that those
āwords of wisdomā ---
are complete BU****IT!
I have NEVER seen a TRULY happy person- who FOUND and MAINTAINED their happiness on their own!
I'm sure the people who coined these phrases meant well. At that moment, when they were pressed to find some reassuring words to help a friend in need, and those phrases came to mindā¦
the words may have even held the āringā of truth..( just as it is with people generation after generation, who keep thoughtlessly spreading the BS)
Nonethelessā¦I'm not buying itā¦ and as we all knowā¦
ā the road to hell is often paved with good intentions"
( Hell doesn't have to be a religious concept here)
Let's not forget that humans are social creatures by our very natureā¦you cannot take an individual into isolation and expect them to remain mentally/emotionally stable for very longā¦ regardless how many other positive things are in place for themā¦they will eventually break down.
Those phrases once had me convinced that I would be considered codependent, (even at my very best), simply because I have such a strong need for a man in my life. Now, I realize that isn't trueā¦that need only proves that I am human, nothing more.
So, for anyone hearing the kind words of another ā¦telling you that you are wrong for seeking happiness from anotherā¦take my advice.
Thank them for the concern and continue to seek whatever makes YOU happy...don't doubt yourself!
I believe we all just need to understand that old saying...
āour happiness isn't other peopleās responsibilityā...
And fully understand the meaning hidden in those words...
( I've heard this cliche numerous timesā¦ usually from people I loved who were blocking my happiness through their actions and behavior, but didn't truly care for me enough to recognize and correct it)...
Our happiness really ISN'T anyone else's responsibility thoughā¦and that's okay
ā¦because this gives us the most SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE way of deciding who should be allowed a part in our livesā¦
I propose that the TRUE KEY TO HAPPINESS
(OR, more likely,one of many)
ālies in understanding that fact, along with the following ā¦
The RIGHT people, those who care, and whose presence will not hinder your happinessā¦.
will not EVER perceive your happiness-
(or their affect on it)-
as a responsibility or an obligation.
They will UNKNOWINGLY and EFFORTLESSLY incorporate your needs into their daily livesā¦allowing their contributions to your life to be healthy ones.
Simply because they love you, and that love drives their daily actions! This doesn't mean there won't be mistakesā¦but when they see you hurt by their actionsā¦.you won't have to say a word, because it will hurt them as wellā¦and they will WANT to make it right, (instead of wanting to prove themselves right).I can't express how much I would have given, to hear this (theory ?)
25 years agoā¦.
my life would be so different and so much better!
I Hope this message reaches the hearts of many. I hope it helps them find a path at least CLOSER to happiness than what I've lived! These Words of Wisdom of mine have been 43 years in the making. I'm hoping maybe I can save y'all some time!
Sending my best wishes and love to allā¦not because religion or social expectationsā¦but because I GENUINELY feel love for each and every person aliveā¦
(At least until I get to know some of y'allā¦. there's some really twisted people in the worldā¦kind of hard to love em allā¦so I just pity the ones I can't loveā¦ )
Agree? Disagree? Comments? Questions?
Id love to hear them allā¦
Ā© Dominique Dawn Peddicord 4/17/2024
